It’s sad when people refuse to take a leap of faith in themselves for fear of failing.
I’ve been there and I’ve stood on the end of that same precipice many times. Have you?
Wondering… what if?
Then turning back.
Thing is we can spend our time wondering and playing it safe.
All our time.
Is that time well spent?
Life isn’t about not finding out, not taking risks.
Nothing ever got achieved in a comfort zone.
It’s time to take the leap of faith in yourself.
Find your own way
The first challenge to overcome fear of doing anything is to make a start. By ‘start’ here, I don’t mean plan or prepare (though this is a very good place to start!)
It’s easy to get stuck in a preparation loop forever – waiting for that illusive ‘right’ moment.
I mean after the preparation. Like the launch of a new product or service, or something new that you are trying out for your business.
Because we all know that the ‘right’ moment never comes.
It’s good (and advisable) to have a plan, but this is only a guide. It will change as you progress.
“I’ll just wait until this and that looks better, or when I’m in the right mood”
That’s procrastination and chances are you’ll never get things started.
Know what I mean?
The procrastination ‘loop’ is often the cause of fear.
The fear of failing.
Failure is NOT a dirty word
And it’s not definitive or terminal either.
Failure is where you learn.
Not a measure of your efforts in any way. If anything it shows that you are trying. And that’s loads better than not trying right?
Not getting something as right as you would like is totally OK. Ask yourself why it isn’t the way you’d like.
Begin to look at different approaches you might take to make changes.
Thanks to social media, it’s easy to begin to compare ourselves other people.
Edited and staged snippets of ‘perfection’. Delivered to mobile devices in easy to access, addictive ways.
I’m not bashing social media (well I guess I am a little), it is awesome for some things, but trips us up in other ways.
This is but one reason that we fear failing.
We won’t look ‘perfect’.
This might be news to many, but there’s no such thing as ‘perfect’. It’s not something us humans can ever be.
If you’re reading this post, it means that I (eventually) stopped faffing and published it!
It’s not perfect, there are (probably) lots of grammatical errors and seplling misticks (see what I did there?)
We’re supposed to make mistakes. We learn from them and grow.
Every single person fails learns.
It’s about finding out where we went off track. Learning from the experience and being grateful of the opportunity.
Then moving on with knowledge and a lesson learned.
Opportunity doesn’t always knock
In the past I’ve adopted a negative mindset when something wasn’t going to plan.
Or an opportunity hadn’t presented itself in a timely and convenient fashion.
The human brain leans towards the negative instinctively. It’s how we survived past the dangers of long ago. Days where we had to be very careful, or end up as somethings lunch!
It’s easy to blame (or fear) the world, the politicians, the economy or the weather (even easier if you watch TV news!)
What’s less easy is to take stock of a situation and make a solid commitment to yourself to make change and adapt.
Change to the things that are within your control.
“If you want to change the world, start with yourself”.
Doing the easy thing is, well, easy. Doing the RIGHT thing, not so much.
In the past I didn’t understand or respect what an opportunity was.
Opportunities to learn and grow come every single day.
There’s a very good saying: “When opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door”.
And that is absolutely right.
Feel the fear, do it anyway. You have but one life.
Your adventure, your story. It’s NEVER too late.
Be yourself, believe in yourself and you’ll be awesome!